Gippsland Women's Health Service

Library Resources on Grief and Loss

AUDIO **********

COPING WITH GRIEF - AUDIO
GRI MCK
McKISSOCK, Mal
This audio book is full of warmth and empathy while also providing practical advice for the bereaved. The recording will be helpful for anyone who has suffered loss and for the carers and supporters of grieving people.
1996

BOOK **********

DEATH OF A MOTHER. DAUGHTER'S STORIES
GRI AIN
AINLEY, Rosa (ed)
Over thirty pieces by daughters on the death of their mothers. Varied and emotional stories
1994

DEALING WITH BEREAVEMENT ACTION PLAN. A catalogue of ideas for helping grieving children at school
GRI BOG
BOGE, Per; Dige, Jes
A resource for schools so that they are prepared for bereavement in the community
2004

OM SORG DEALING WITH BEREAVEMENT A selection of the educational materials
GRI BOGE
BOGE, Per; DIGE, Jes
Selectiopn of materials in English translated from a Danish resource to help children of all ages deal with bereavement. Includes materials that can beused in the classroom for where it was written
2004

THROUGH LOSS
GRI BRU
BRUCE, Elizabeth; SCHULTZ, Cynthia
The authors explain the grieving process and how to cope, acknowledging that grief does not necessarily go away. Covers the emotional trauma as well as the day to day survival, plus how loss affects children and parents.
2004

BEING A WIDOW
GRI CAI
CAINE, Lynn
For women facing the loneliness and stress of widowhood, here is a self help book of the very best kind, filled with practical and reassuring advice for every stage of recovery. Candid writing on the universal issues of grief, the impact of death, depression, legal and financial problems, reemerging sexuality, dreams, rebuilding self confidence, the grief of children and more.
261 p p
1988

WHY AM I AFRAID TO GRIEVE?
GRI CAR
CARPENTER, Ann; Geoffrey Johnson
Grief is nothing to be ashamed of. It is a normal and necessary experience. And yet our culture expects us to give less and less time to it and to keep a stiff upper lip in public. If you have suffered a bereavement or some other kind of loss, and don't know what you can expect from the grieving proces, this book is for you.
120 p
1994

AN UNRECOGNISED GRIEF: Loss and grief issues for carers - A worker's guide
GRI CAV
Carer's Association Victoria
Loss and grief issues for carers - A worker's guide
40 p
1999

AN UNRECOGNISED GRIEF: Loss and grief issues for carers - A carer's guide
GRI CAV
Carer's Association Victoria
Loss and grief issues for carers - A carer's guide
30 p
2001

I NEVER TOLD HER I LOVED HER
GRI CHI
CHICK, Sandra
'When you're dead I'll be able to do what I want! I cant wait!, Frankie had replied. Now her mother is dead and Frankie remembers these words, and others. She feels totally lost, wondering how she is supposed to be feeling, and wishing she hadnt been so cruel. And though she thinks about her mother fondly, she still cant forget how she gave in to Frankies Dad to often and didnt fight back. Frankie feels guilty...When she discovers her father crying in the kitchen he yells at her 'Nothing is wrong. Leave me alone', and she is hurt, and confused...What do people expect of her?
85 p p
1989

ALWAYS PART OF ME Surviving Childbearing Loss
GRI COL
COLLINGE, Amanda et al
Australian men and women describe the pain of infertility, miscarriage, still birth or neo-natal death
278 p
2002

YOUR BABY HAS DIED.....
GRI CRO
CROWTHER, Rosemary; Brabin, Penny
Written by mothers whose children have died, this book takes you through the process of grieving and moving on.
54 p
1986

YOUR BABY HAS DIED ....
GRI CRO
CROWTHER, Rosemary; Penny Brabin
A guide for parents whose baby has died before, during or soon after birth. The death of your baby may be the most difficult experience you have yet had to face. To make things worse, it may have been a totally unexpected shock. You are probably left with a feeling of emptiness and perhaps a sense of helplessness, anguish and maybe even anger. The dreams and plans you had of loving and caring for this baby are now shattered. It may seem that there is no one who could possibly understand how you are feeling just now - but this isn't so. This book has been written by parents who themselves have faced the death of a baby. We will share with you what we and many other parents have learned about this experience.
54 p
1992

EMPTY CRADLE, BROKEN HEART
GRI DAV
DAVIS, Deborah L.
The heartache of miscarriage, still birth or infant death affects roughly 50,000 U.S. families every year. This revised and expanded edition of Empty Cradle, Broken Heart offers reassurance to parents who struggle with anger, guilt and despair after such tradgedy. Deborah Davis encourages grieving and makes suggestions for coping.
268 p
1996

FATHERLESS DAUGHTERS: The shadow of loss
GRI DEM
DEMETRIADES, Dimitra
Examines the consequences of women raised without a father, looking at emotional and social development, and decisions she makes for herself and her children.
190 p
1997

WHEN A BABY SUDDENLY DIES : COT DEATH - THE IMPACT AND EFFECTS
GRI DEV
DEVESON-LORD, Janet
This book gives helpful guidance to all who have to respond to a cot death. The author addresses the ambulance officers, doctors, police, clergy, hosptial staff and funeral directors, who, with family members, neighbours and close friends, are the first emergency responders to cot death. All will be anxious to help, but few will be conversant with the unique and devastating effects of cot death upon a family or upon themselves.
279 p p
1987

GRIEF EXPRESSED When a Mate Dies
GRI FEL
FELBER, Marta
For people who have lost a partner. Provides guidance on how to cope with loss. Each double page has headings such as "finding strength to go on" which presents ideas and suggestions and then a worksheet for the breaved to write down their emotions and their own ideas
2002

LIVING WITH LOSS AND GRIEF
GRI GLA
GLASSOCK, Geoffrey; Gressor, Megan
This book covers the many forms of bereavement, the stages of grief, death and dying, when a child dies, how to help someone in grief, when a marriage ends, losing your job, and miscarriage and stillbirth.
63 p p
1992

LOSS AND GRIEF DEALING WITH LIFE CRISES
GRI GRE
GRESSOR, Megan
Concise book on death of a partner parent and child; funerals, responses to and stages of grief, end of pregnancy and relationship breakdown
2004

CARING AND COPING WHEN YOUR LOVED ONE IS SERIOUSLY ILL
GRI GRO
GROLLMAN, Earl
Carefully designed book that is not cluttered but is full of suggestions on how to cope. Covers the impact of knowing that someone is ill, and the various steps of grief; when and how to tell the truth; how to choose a physician; how to keep dignity; looking after yourself and each other; support services
1995

CHILDREN'S GRIEF
GRI HEA
HEANEY, Pam
Practical book on ways to help adults talk to children about loss
2004

SUPPORTING BEREAVED AND DYING CHILDREN AND THEIR PARENTS
GRI HER
HERBERT, Martin
A guide for counsellors, nurses, doctors and social service professionals with knowledge, skills and values to assist children and their families and develop understanding of how children and adults react to loss and the imminent loss of loved ones.
37 p
1997

HIDDEN LOSS : MISCARRIAGE AND ECTOPIC PREGNANCY
GRI HEY
HEY, Valerie (Ed.); Itzin, Catherine (Ed.); Saunders, Lesley (Ed.); Speakman, Mary Anne (Ed.
"Beginning with personal accounts, Hidden Loss goes on to offer a feminist analysis of the experience of miscarriage in our society".
230 p
1989

DON'T WAIT UNTIL I DIE TO SEND ME FLOWERS: Book 1 HELPING OTHERS. Another person's loss and grief
GRI HOD
HODGE, Evie
Book 1 provides wide variety of ideas to assist another person when their need for support is great.
40 p
1996

DON'T WAIT UNTIL I DIE TO SEND ME FLOWERS: Book 2 SELF HELP: Helping yourself recover from loss and grief
GRI HOD
HODGE, Evie
Book 2 is for individuals coming to terms with own particular loss. A practical, easy to read book, full of suggestions, activities and strategies to use on the journey towards regaining health and wellbeing
63 p
1996

WRITE THROUGH LOSS AND GRIEF: A guide to recovery through writing
GRI HOD
HODGE, Evie
Effective strategies to help you identify issues around your losses, express your grief, integrate your experiences, increase self knowledge, chart the changes towards new growth, develop new ways of looking at life.
112 p
1998

LOSING A CHILD Explorations in Grief
GRI HUR
HURCOMBE, Linda
Advice and support for parents and their friends and family when they lose a child.
2004

ETERNITY AND ME: The everlasting things in life and death
GRI KEL
KELLEHEAR, Allan
The following questions and more are dealt with in this challenging and heartwarming book about the search for meaning in death and loss:- Why me? How will I face death? How can I make sense of my fear of death? What sense and meaning is there in loss and grief?
185 p
2000

GRIEF AND REMEMBERING 25 Australians tell it like it is
GRI KEL
KELLEHEAR, Allan (ed)
Personal stories covering death of friends, children, patients, siblings and lovers
2001

UNSPEAKABLE LOSSES: Understanding the experience of pregnancy loss, miscarriage & abortion
GRI KLU
KLUGER-BELL Kim
Practical and helpful advice, invaluable not only to women who have experienced pregnancy loss but also to their partners,family & friends.
155 p
1998

ON DEATH AND DYING What the dying have to teach doctors, nurses, clergy, and their own families
GRI KUB
Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth
Book can help everyone, professionally and personally, face the end of life, by bringing death out of the darkness, and by doing so, show how and with what quiet grace the human spirit composes itself for extinction.
289 p p
2003

ON CHILDREN AND DEATH
GRI KUB
Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth
In a warm and simple language and based on a decade of working with dying children, this book offers the famileis of dead and dying children the help, and hope, they need to survive.
279 p p
1985

DEATH: THE FINAL STAGE OF GROWTH
GRI KUB
Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth
Drawing on our own and other cultures views of death and dying, the author provides some illuminating answers to many questions. She offers a spectrum of viewpoints, including those of ministers, rabbis, doctors, nurses and sociologists, and the personal accounts of those near death and of their survivors.
181 p p
1986

LIVING WITH DEATH AND DYING
GRI KUB
Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth
Written in response to requests of patients, readers and parents of dying children, this book contains understanding of the different languages terminally ill adults and children use when they try to convey their inner knowledge and needs.
181 p p
1981

NO TIME FOR GOODBYES : Coping with sorrow, anger and injustice after a tragic death.
GRI LOR
Lord, Janice Harris
Provides special help and understanding that is needed for coming to terms with the shock and grief that follows the sudden, violent death of a loved one. It gives hope and useful suggestions for surviviors grieving for a loved one who has been killed - a process that is different and more painful than the sorrow felt for a person who died naturally.
156 p p
1992

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT PLEASE!
GRI MAC 1
MAC
A personal account of miscarriage. The main reason for writing this booklet, was an apparent lack of grass roots discussion, with respect to miscarriages and some cases of stillborn babies. I personally have been pregnant 11 times and have 3 live children as a result of all those pregnancies, therefore, even though I have no medical background, I feel well equipped to write down my views and suggestions. In this process, I hope to unbiasedly touch on all topics that may affect all of us, whether we are parents or professional health service providers.
20 p
1991

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT PLEASE!
GRI MAC 2
MAC
A personal account of miscarriage. The main reason for writing this booklet, was an apparent lack of grass roots discussion, with respect to miscarriages and some cases of stillborn babies. I personally have been pregnant 11 times and have 3 live children as a result of all those pregnancies, therefore, even though I have no medical background, I feel well equipped to write down my views and suggestions. In this process, I hope to unbiasedly touch on all topics that may affect all of us, whether we are parents or professional health service providers.
20 p
1991

THINGS ABOUT ZAC, MY BABY BROTHER
GRI MCC
MCCOMB, Nadia Adele
16 page booklet by a 7 year old girl when her younger brother dies from SIDS. Emphasises that it is alright to cry
16 p
1995

COPING WITH GRIEF
GRI MCK
MCKISSOCK, Mal; MCKISSOCK, Dianne
Book is full of warmth and empathy while also providing practical advice for the bereaved. Will be helpful for anyone who has suffered loss and for the carers and supporters of grieving people. Audio tape is also available
1995

MICHAEL: A parent's grief
GRI MOR
MORAWETZ, David
A collection of poems from parent who has lost a child
18 p

MISCARRIAGE : Women's experiences and needs
GRI MOU
MOULDER, Christine
Covering every aspect of miscarriage from the immediate impact to possible lasting effects and the contrast between the physical and the emotional reality of the loss, this book contains womens stories and what it meant for them, how they felt about their pregnancy and how this influences their feelings about the miscarriage, the contrast between the private and the public experience, the effects of good or bad health care and the help and support they needed.
242 p
2001

LOSS OF A BABY : Understanding maternal grief
GRI NIC
Nicol, Margaret
"...presents various strategies for anyone having to cope directly with the death of a child, but it is also addressed to all who have contact with a grieving mother."
181 p
1989

COPING WITH MISCARRAIGE
GRI OVE
OVERS, Marge
Miscarraige is painfully common - in fact, it is estimated that at least one in every five pregnancies will end in this way. Yet all too often, the deep sense of loss it causes may go unrecognised by friends, family and even the medical profession itself. This book provides a comprehensive and compassionate account of the causes, treatment and emotional issues of miscarraige, as well as offering strategies to help heal the hurt.
64p p
1995

COPING WITH MISCARRIAGE
GRI OVE
OVERS, Marge
Covershow it happens, the emotional impact, how others react and positive thinking
64 p
1995

UNDERSTANDING GRIEF AND LOSS
GRI PAR
PARKER: Judith
Judy Parker is and early childhood educator/counsellor specialising in grief and loss - understanding grief and loss-from the adult perspective, from the child's perspective, death, predictable and normal reactions of a child, when a sibling dies, the chronically ill child and other topics are covered including a list of books for children.

14 p
1995

MISCARRIAGE Information for Parents and Families
GRI SID
SIDS AND KIDS NSW
Booklet on miscarriage and recovering from it. Covers the type of miscarriage, women's health afterwards, feelings and reactions, creating memories, planning another pregnancy and how others can help
2004

THE SADDEST TIME
GRI SIM
SIMON, Norma
Explains death as the inevitable end of life and provides three situations in which children experience powerful emotions when someone close has died.
1986

STOP PRETENDING: What happened when my big sister went crazy
GRI SON
SONES, Sonya
One night her sister goes crazy, one night her world falls apart - an intense and brutally honest story told in succession of powerful poems taking us through all of the emotions to finally - acceptance
148 p
1999

AFTER A MISCARRIAGE
GRI STO
Anne Stonehouse
After a miscarriage provides easily readable information on a common, very emotional, experience than can be traumatic for those women unfortunate enough to experience it. The book outlines the different types of miscarriages, the symptoms expereinced with each, and the known causes and available treatments.
53 p
1986

THE GRIEF BOOK Strategies for young people
GRI VER
VERCOE, Elizabth; ABRAMOWSKI, Kerry
Practical ideas to help yourself or someone you know move through grief, such as keeping a diary, eating, getting help, dealing with pain, doing some art.
2004

CARING FOR YOUR GRIEVING CHILD - Engaging activities for dealing with loss and transition storm damaged
GRI WAK
WAKENSHAW, Martha
Very practical guide on how to work with children who are grieving - through play. Advices on positive communication caring for yourself, recognising whether the child is still huring and when to seek professional advice
162 p

BEAR'S LAST JOURNEY
GRI WEI
WEIGELT, Udo; Cristina Kadmon
Child's picture story book on death and dying
32 p
2003

HELPING CHILDREN COPE WITH GRIEF Facing a Death in the Family
GRI WEL
WELLS, Rosemary
1988

KIT **********

INFORMATION & SUPPORT PACK: for those bereaved by suicide or other sudden death
GRI CLA
NOT FOR LOAN Individual sheets can be downloaded
CLARK, S.J; HILLMAN, S.D.; Ministerial Council for Suicide Prevention
Information sheets on Koori grieving, Support services and groups, how friends can help, early grief, emotions during bereavement, helping children with grief, suicide bereavement, questions on grief. Pack is also available from www.community-life.org.au/resources
2003

VIDEO **********

SOME BABIES DIE
GRI DOW
The death of a baby has far reaching consequences for parents. yet society places a taboo on death particularly where a baby is concerned. The parents are not encouraged to allow the grieving process to occur. Dr Peter Barr teaches another way in an effort to create memories for the parents which will allow them to grieve more naturally.

1986
54 minutes